Water is always good Besides the sprinkler and kiddie pool, there are many ways to play with water. Sprinkling/watering cans for anything outside to grow, squirt bottles for the same. Have kids walk around with either and water things or … Continue reading
Note: Check out parts one and two of this series if you haven’t had the chance to read them yet. Now that you have had time to practice your listening skills, it’s time to learn how to express yourself more … Continue reading
A while back in the car we were listening to the book-on-tape, Half Magic. Written in the 1950s, the mother in the story is a hardworking, stoic widow who hides all emotion from her children. At one point in the … Continue reading
If I have to hear this ONE MORE TIME, I swear… So, in part one I listed five brief tidbits on how to improve your listening skills. And you ask why that is so important? I mean, you listen just … Continue reading
This morning I put my down jacket on over my pjs and robe (yeah, it was really cute) and went outside with a cup of steaming tea and watched the sun come up over the mountains. The birds were noisy … Continue reading
You NEVER listen to me! Sound familiar? Have you ever said these words to your spouse or partner? Have they ever been said to you? Variations include: You are NOT listening to me! You haven’t heard a word I’ve said, … Continue reading
It’s Holy Week, the days leading up to Easter when we look back on the final days of Jesus’s life. I was especially excited this year to attend the extra services my church offers. On Thursday, we wash each others’ … Continue reading
Have you ever scrolled down your Facebook friends list and just thought about the people there? You have your “silly” friend–the one whose response is always hysterical. Your serious, reliable friend–the one who is more like a sister than a … Continue reading
What effect do the little day-to-day things you do for and with your kids have in the overall scheme of their lives? What does it matter? Do they care that you care? Do the nights spent caring for a sick child or the days on end of being cooped up with sniffling children even count as an important part of mothering? It would seem that much of motherhood is just getting through the tough times, just getting by when you have really had enough. Really, how much of the stuff of these early years do kids even remember?
They don’t remember much in terms of events, surroundings, day-to-day life. But it is in these little seemingly meaningless everyday tasks that we are slowly building a strong bond of trust. Our little ones learn that someone responds when they cry. They repeatedly are cared for by the same people. They learn that they are part of a family, a caring unit. They have a face to bond with: a face of care, a face they can trust.
In those times of sickness, of crabbiness, of tantrums…they learn a little about perseverance, patience, endurance and about a bond that is not easily broken. When their actions, behavior, and sickness causes them to be hard to love, hard to care for, they learn what it is like to be nurtured in spite of it all…they learn about steadfastness.
Little by little, layer upon layer, trust is born and developed between mother and child. It really can only happen this way. The small stuff of life, the hard stuff of life, and the everyday over-and-over-again stuff of life creates bonds that are not easily broken. Little by little, layer upon layer, the family is built; trust and love begin to flourish.
Not only are trust and family bonds built in the small, sometimes hard, stuff of life, but here character is formed–both ours as moms and our children’s. Our children are the recipients of our behavior and also the observers of it. Daily, we model in a hundred little ways how life is lived. In the ways we deal with our sleepless nights, our fears and anxieties, sickness, anger and frustration, we demonstrate our character to our kids. Their character in formed in our interactions in the smallest details of life…layer upon layer.
For many moms, this winter has been one of endless days at home with coughing, sniffling, vomiting, or generally sick kids. Being stuck at home isn’t fun, and it is stressful for any mom to have sick children. But this is part of life with preschoolers; this is your life now, and it is important. Your sacrifices are important. Your time spent with kids who need you is time that they won’t remember, but it is a layer that is part of the solid foundation you are building for and with your kids.
Jan Roberson has been a mentor in the Bigfork MOPS for 7 years. She has taught in public and private schools, homeschooled and has been a private tutor. Dan and Jan have two adult children, Caitlin and Nathaniel, and have lived in the Flathead Valley for more than 20 years.
Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them — every day begin the task anew. ~Saint Francis de Sales I like this … Continue reading