If I have to hear this ONE MORE TIME, I swear… So, in part one I listed five brief tidbits on how to improve your listening skills. And you ask why that is so important? I mean, you listen just … Continue reading
This morning I put my down jacket on over my pjs and robe (yeah, it was really cute) and went outside with a cup of steaming tea and watched the sun come up over the mountains. The birds were noisy … Continue reading
You NEVER listen to me! Sound familiar? Have you ever said these words to your spouse or partner? Have they ever been said to you? Variations include: You are NOT listening to me! You haven’t heard a word I’ve said, … Continue reading
It’s Holy Week, the days leading up to Easter when we look back on the final days of Jesus’s life. I was especially excited this year to attend the extra services my church offers. On Thursday, we wash each others’ … Continue reading
Have you ever scrolled down your Facebook friends list and just thought about the people there? You have your “silly” friend–the one whose response is always hysterical. Your serious, reliable friend–the one who is more like a sister than a … Continue reading
What effect do the little day-to-day things you do for and with your kids have in the overall scheme of their lives? What does it matter? Do they care that you care? Do the nights spent caring for a sick child or the days on end of being cooped up with sniffling children even count as an important part of mothering? It would seem that much of motherhood is just getting through the tough times, just getting by when you have really had enough. Really, how much of the stuff of these early years do kids even remember?
They don’t remember much in terms of events, surroundings, day-to-day life. But it is in these little seemingly meaningless everyday tasks that we are slowly building a strong bond of trust. Our little ones learn that someone responds when they cry. They repeatedly are cared for by the same people. They learn that they are part of a family, a caring unit. They have a face to bond with: a face of care, a face they can trust.
In those times of sickness, of crabbiness, of tantrums…they learn a little about perseverance, patience, endurance and about a bond that is not easily broken. When their actions, behavior, and sickness causes them to be hard to love, hard to care for, they learn what it is like to be nurtured in spite of it all…they learn about steadfastness.
Little by little, layer upon layer, trust is born and developed between mother and child. It really can only happen this way. The small stuff of life, the hard stuff of life, and the everyday over-and-over-again stuff of life creates bonds that are not easily broken. Little by little, layer upon layer, the family is built; trust and love begin to flourish.
Not only are trust and family bonds built in the small, sometimes hard, stuff of life, but here character is formed–both ours as moms and our children’s. Our children are the recipients of our behavior and also the observers of it. Daily, we model in a hundred little ways how life is lived. In the ways we deal with our sleepless nights, our fears and anxieties, sickness, anger and frustration, we demonstrate our character to our kids. Their character in formed in our interactions in the smallest details of life…layer upon layer.
For many moms, this winter has been one of endless days at home with coughing, sniffling, vomiting, or generally sick kids. Being stuck at home isn’t fun, and it is stressful for any mom to have sick children. But this is part of life with preschoolers; this is your life now, and it is important. Your sacrifices are important. Your time spent with kids who need you is time that they won’t remember, but it is a layer that is part of the solid foundation you are building for and with your kids.
Jan Roberson has been a mentor in the Bigfork MOPS for 7 years. She has taught in public and private schools, homeschooled and has been a private tutor. Dan and Jan have two adult children, Caitlin and Nathaniel, and have lived in the Flathead Valley for more than 20 years.
Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them — every day begin the task anew. ~Saint Francis de Sales I like this … Continue reading
Mylo and I just sat down together this morning to make a new chart. I’m all about charts. Visual progress, rewards, an understanding of expectations… This one was long overdue. With kindergarten looming for this typical youngest, I realized it … Continue reading
Bigfork MOPS is so excited to announce our 2015 Run for Your Mama Fundraising Race happening on May 16th, 2015 in beautiful Bigfork Montana (on the Northeast corner of Flathead Lake). We have a family friendly 5k race (also timed for our competitive racers) as well as a kids fun run and tons of prizes and family fun for all. Check out our race page to register and be sure to join our Facebook event to stay up to date on our wonderful sponsors as well as the festivities and tons of fun.
Click Here to see Highlights from our last race: https://animoto.com/play/AvBcRYJLuHmP6OHUyyUfVg
Do you want to know more…here are some helpful links!
RACE PAGE (for race registration or to donate to Bigfork MOPS): https://bigforkmops.com/run-for-your-mama-5k-race/
FACEBOOK EVENT for our 2015 RACE (please join and share): https://www.facebook.com/events/1590168641220899
RACE QUESTIONS and/or COMMENTS: Leave a comment on our Race Page or email our Race coordinator at firstname.lastname@example.org .
Thank you all for your support!
-Bigfork MOPS because Better Moms Make a Better World!
It’s great to share the big fun moments with friends. Birthday parties…themed dinner parties with decor…game nights…summer BBQs. I love those. But to be honest, sometimes I find it hard to plan, coordinate, or even make it to them. And … Continue reading